I didn’t make amends because I was seeking forgiveness from the people I wronged, I made amends because I’m seeking the capacity to be able to forgive myself for what I’ve done. I’ve previously talked about the difference between guilt and shame in my blog postings. Often times, guilt is completely warranted, and in my..
I recently read a book called Life’s Too Short by Dr. Abraham Twerski in which he defines guilt as “I made a mistake” and shame as “I am a mistake”, and I thought that was an interesting way to look at it. For myself I can relate a lot of my self-esteem (my absence of..
I’ve learned a lot on my journey through mental health and addiction, and one of the more invaluable lessons is that of perspective. My brain’s proclivity is to think that my perspective is not just the only perspective, but the right perspective. And the unification of perception with fact can be harmful in the least,..
Pride is a deadly sin for a reason. Pride almost killed me and it still continues to almost kill me when I allow it back into my life. Pride is the antithesis of listening and learning, and therefore it is one of the biggest enemies of improvement and development. The thing about pride is it..
Before I decided to get clean and sober I was addicted to lying. Everything was at the very least an exaggeration or embellishment of the truth. I didn’t really regard it as a problem until the last few months because I felt that most of it was harmless. But I’ve come to learn that for..
God seems to be almost a taboo topic in today’s day in age, and I find that quite disheartening. It tends to be a topic that ostracizes people and pushes people away. Even the mention of a belief in God seems to make people think you’re some blindly faithful religious zealot incapable of independent thought…
I’m not a big fan of the term unconditional love because I feel as though that love that would have conditions is not genuine love. I think that people often erroneously conflate love with other emotions, because genuine love for someone exists regardless of any conditions or parameters. In my estimation, love involves the removal..
Fear and insecurity have held me back from accomplishing so many things in my life. There is this voice in my head that tells me that there is no use in doing things because I will never be the best at things. And the problem with that voice isn’t that it’s present, it’s that it’s..
I have a heartbreaking story that ultimately changed the way I looked at the world forever. My cousin whom I loved dearly passed away from cancer at the young age of sixteen. Obviously very tragic and heartbreaking, but I extracted one of the most important lessons of my life on the day before his passing…
I’m generally plagued by feelings of worthlessness. I often think that I’m not a good person and that therefore I often feel there is no use in trying to better something that is already irreparably broken. Often times I’ll even go as far as to say that not only am I worthless, but everyone is..